Love Your Voice
14th February 2019
Voice Tips Blog
Love your voice. It's the only one you've got. Take care of it. Warm it up if you’re using it often throughout your day. Love it at its worst, at its best and in-between. If you regularly have trouble with your voice, go get it checked by a laryngologist (via your GP). If you’re just not really in love with your voice, think about times you don't really dwell on it and those times you do not love it.
What is happening in the situations where you’re not dwelling on it?
Are you happy and relaxed working a job you like, or at home with family and friends just chilling out?
What is happening when you’re noticing you’re not loving it?
Are you working in a new job that you’re getting used to? Feeling like your voice is letting you down? Are you talking to a room full of students or conference delegates and struggling to be heard, or your voice is cracking? Do you think your voice is too high or too low? I could go on, but I've a busy afternoon ahead so I'll be brief (ish).
1. Release… let go… and love it
My first tip to help you love your voice is to release and love it anyway. Learn to love it. Just simply, accept it and notice the times it serves you well. Perhaps, you read your child a bed time story and they were enjoying it with you. That was you and your voice they were enjoying! Or, perhaps you notice that for the most part in your day, your voice actually works brilliantly and only breaks when you’re talking to new people you’re meeting. That's likely just nervous tension, so remember to breath, relax, let go as soon as you can and your voice will follow.
2. Appropriate volume
If your voice isn't loud enough to be heard, make use of amplification. For example, teachers, lecturers and anyone who is required to speak to rooms full of people, if there is no amplification, request or buy some. This will help you and others protect and love their voices. Some people will find their voices do need some training to help with appropriate volume, so invest in that through work or privately. For now, I can say, make sure that your body is taken care of through regular exercise, make sure your breathing is nice and relaxed i.e. your belly moving gently when you breathe in, not your shoulders lifting up and down, and speak the whole room. Imagine the whole room filled with your voice. Nope, not shouting, or even the need to be really loud just a nice and resonant sound.
3. More releasing…
Voice cracking? Guess what my short answer is here? You may be noticing a theme if you've been paying attention... relax and let go. And when I say 'relax' I don't mean go full couch potato, just releasing excessive tensions can be enough. Then love your voice. Be accepting of it and as you settle into your new job, the cracks may well go. If not, then go get your voice checked.
4. Optimum Pitch Use
Voice too high or too low? Is it? Really? By whose standards? Your voice may be at your own 'optimum pitch' which may be slightly higher or lower than someone you’re admiring. Don't allow societal pressures of what pitch your voice should be, bother you. Own it. Love it. If your voice is getting tired often, it may well be your speaking too high or low for your optimum pitch, so do get some voice coaching to help with this. You can learn how to own a room (in that good way that people like) with your voice and your presence and loving your voice and yourself is a great starting point.
On this last note, my lovely presents to you is 10% off any one-to-one bookings before the end of February 2019.
Lots of love on this Valentine's Day
Kelly Anne Sharp
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